“It Must Be Nice…”

If you start any thought or phrase with “It must be nice….” You are probably offended. “It must be nice to not have to work”, “It must be nice to grow up with 2, married parents”, “It must be nice to have money and not worry about bills”, “It must be nice to have a job and time away from your kids every day”. All of these are signs of offense.

Where does offense come from though? We know it is certain, Jesus said so, but how does it happen? Well, one way is through the lies we hear leading to discontentment. Most of the time, offense stems from falsely assigned jealousy. We want something someone else has, and in return we either offend them, or get offended by them.

The Bible says “Better to have little, with godliness, than to be rich and dishonest” (Proverbs 16:8). If we apply words like “little” and “rich” to our situation, not just to a measure of money, or having more or less, we can see that we all are rich in some areas and have little in others. Some of us are rich in time, but feel like we are worth only a little. Some of us are rich in money, but feel like we have little time with our family. The point is, we all have “little” in something, but with godliness, we can and should be content.

Freedom comes in obedience. Addressing an offense, the way God says to, whether warranted or not, will free us from the possible discontent that created the feelings of offense in the first place. If we feel discontent with our full-time job, or lack of close friends in the church, or relationship with Jesus, we may often find ourselves offended by those who do not work full time, seem to have plenty of close friends at church, and an admirable relationship with Jesus.

When we get offended let’s start to first look inward. If we have done that, and are still offended, let us commit to handling offense Biblically, reaching out to our brother or sister immediately instead of harboring an unwanted spirit.

“A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people” (2 Timothy 2:24). In order for us to grow with each other as followers, so that we may affect and show truth to those who do not yet know, we must learn to act in kindness, and with patience toward our differences. In this, we can learn contentment, happiness, and peace with what we have or don’t, knowing and trusting we are in exactly the right place, with the appropriate amount of all things, because God has his hand on us. Let’s become more content, less offended and offensive, and work towards the ultimate command to “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need” (Luke 12:31).